Centered Self Trauma Therapy offers online therapy to clients in California, Florida, South Carolina, and Virginia to help you understand your attachment style, break your relationship patterns, and develop secure attachments.
If you're looking to improve your connections, tired of repeating the same patterns in relationships, and ready to make changes to get what you truly need, I’ve got you. In therapy, we’ll explore your individual attachment style and develop strategies, so you can be more open, present, grounded, and authentic in all your interactions with others.
Right now, you might be thinking:
I know I’m anxiously attached, but I don’t know how to not feel abandoned when my partner seems distant.
I have a pattern. I really like someone but when they like me back, I become disinterested. It’s like I don’t want to be part of a group that would have me as a member.
Dating is the worst. I feel anxious all the time not knowing if they like me
I can’t take it when someone doesn’t text me back. I don’t want to care but I do.
I don’t want to be alone, but relationships feel suffocating sometimes.
I don’t like to get close to people. I’m afraid they won’t like me when they get to know me.
I always feel like I have to please my mother/father. I’m so hyper aware of when they are displeased and I’m afraid I’m a disappointment all the time.
My boss never tells me I’m doing a good job. I feel unappreciated, insecure about my performance and it makes me angry. It makes me want to shut down and do the least possible in my job. Maybe I’ll quit.
I can’t do family. My mom is always in my business and oversharing with me. I just stay home and make excuses when holiday time shows up.
Many people find it hard to escape the anxious-avoidant relationship trap, where opposite attachment styles—one anxious, the other avoidant—attract like magnets. Their core wounds both draw them together and trigger a push-pull dynamic. This makes it hard to find comfort, security, or healthy communication. Maybe you find yourself in this cycle and aren’t sure how to break free from it.
I’ve found that blending IFS and EMDR is a powerful approach for healing attachment wounds. With IFS, we’ll explore the parts that shape your attachment style—like hypervigilance, worry, apathy, or obsession. Other parts might feel frustrated, disappointed, or turn to people-pleasing. These parts often protect deeper wounds, like feeling unworthy of love or getting your needs met. We’ll uncover your parts and help unburden them. EMDR reduces anxiety and negative core beliefs linked to attachment wounds. CBT is the perfect finishing touch! We’ll create actionable steps to develop secure attachment skills by practicing opposite actions, adopting new beliefs, and challenging limiting ones
I’m excited to be your safety net throughout this journey. Together, these therapies will help you build new neural pathways for secure attachment.
